Reflections for the Weekend

I think this was the first weekend in a while that is quiet and at home.  After the hurricane, and having to take care of things at our other house, we are home this weekend and my kids are enjoying spending the day in their pajamas.  After running some errands, I have to admit it’s nice to have a quiet weekend for a change.  Everyone needs down time, and for us this weekend is it.

I have been talking about relationships this week, and it reminded me about the importance of focusing on relationships.  Relationships with yourself and with others are important to think about.  You really need to nurture both, and a quiet weekend at home pulls that into focus again.  As I think about my relationships, I know that I have work to do.

When I think about communication, trust, and connection, it makes me remember how I have changed over the years.  Trust was an issue in the past, and I have been hurt a lot, between bullies and past boyfriends.  I struggle with connections even now, but I have grown a lot.  I still have a long way to go, but I’m getting there.  I don’t think you ever stop learning or growing, and I appreciate that fact, quite often.

Sometimes, when I work with others around relationships, it really makes me do an inventory of my own.  Although I questioned whether I would get married, I did.  I believe in the commitment, and understand that marriage is for better and worse.  I talked with people about that weekly, and I know there is no happily every after.  It sure is nice to think about, but not very realistic.  People spend so much time planning their weddings.  I often think that they should spend more time planning their lives than planning a wedding.  No one says that relationships are going to be easy.  Tom Hanks character in A League of their Own said that “it’s suppose to be hard, or everyone would do it”.  Marriage is hard, and that’s why the divorce rate is still so high, and the average marriage age his higher now than in years past.

My relationship with myself is getting better too, although I wish I could eat better.  Just not enough motivation for that yet, but I’m working on It.  I am still focused on getting enough sleep and trying to exercise, but it’s still a work in progress.  How are you doing with taking care of yourself?  So many people that I talk to are focused on caring for everyone else.  It may sound selfish, but you can care for a family better when you care for yourself first.  Otherwise, you can run out of energy.  That doesn’t mean over spending, cheating on your partner, or lying about finances, so don’t make more problems by doing the wrong things.

As we enjoy the weekend, I hope you are enjoying your weekend.  We will be talking more about relationships in the future, but for now, just enjoy the people around you and let them know that they matter to you.   Here’s hoping that you can relax, get some good family time, some rest, and something yummy.  There should always be something yummy!