Do you have goals? Having life goals helps you refocus if you forget where you are headed. Your goals can be as simple as cleaning out your closet, or more complicated life graduating from college. You can set a weight loss goal, or an exercise goal, or you can also set career goals. Whatever the goals, always have a reason to get out of bed. I work with so many people at all different places in their life cycle. When I was working with an older patient, who was over 80, and still a mover and a shaker, I learned a very valuable lesson. The patient told me that the secret to life was keeping your mind busy, and always having a goal. I believe that, so lets talk about goals.
I think back at all the things I have done over my life that I’m proud of and I have to say there were a few things that came to mind. I’m proud that I had the courage to move to Washington. I’m proud that I was able to complete my college degrees. I’m proud of my kids, and I’m proud that I have been able to take advantage of the opportunities that I have been offered and also the ones that I had to fight for. All those things were goals at times in my life, and I’m happy to say that I was able to make them come true. As I completed goals, I set new ones, so on some level I understand what my patient was talking about. Some goals I had to let go, or change to make them happen. If they were important to me, I fought harder to make them happen.
When I work with patients, I help them set goals for therapy and for life. Sometimes they come in with goals, so we talk about their goals, their reasons for them, and the roadblocks they might face. All goals have roadblocks, whether it’s people that get in the way, money problems, or internal conflicts. Sometimes overcoming the roadblocks takes longer than achieving the goal itself. Overcoming poor self-esteem or poor self-confidence can be overwhelming, but if you have the dream, dare to dream it and work to accomplish it. Some people will never play professional sports, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be good at the sport of their choice.
As you think about your goals, think about long and short term goals. Think about what you want your life to look like in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years and beyond. Do you want a new job, and if so is it a career you are already doing? Do you need to return to school to make it happen? Do you want to buy a house? Do you want to travel? If you want to buy a house, start doing research to see what you need to do to make it happen. If you want a new career, and you need to go to school, look into financial aid and programs that interest you. Don’t be afraid to invest in yourself.
As you think about your goals and the roadblocks you face, don’t underestimate how much determination can help you realize your goals. Every goal worth having is worth fighting for, and winning. Never stop setting goals or dreaming. When you are 100 years old, your goal might be to live another day, but it’s still a goal. It all helps you be happy, for life.