I love to watch movies around the holidays and recently watched the Wizard of Oz. Watching the moving this year made me think of things to come, but also about the things I have learned. Just like Dorothy, sometimes we forget what it means to be home, with family. Sometimes we forget what it’s like to be loved, and sometimes we lose track of what’s important. Take time this year to remember what’s important.
Family’s don’t always get along, but they are always related. My daughter’s will fight at times, but they can also get along and do things together. People that I see in treatment struggle with relationships with family members and often need to think through events and what to do. People can make very poor choices, and hurt those around them. Forgiveness becomes important and understanding the key went trying to decide whether to repair relationships. There are things that can’t be forgiven, but most of the times conflict can be settled and people can care about each other again.
Running away is never an answer. I work with people so often that try to run away to escape problems. Facing problems lets you work through things and be able to move on with your life. Working through tough problems can take effort, and sadness and stress can be a part of the process. Feeling the sadness can help manage the hurt from situations that separate families, and although most people try to avoid sadness and pain, it’s worth feeling and processing it so you can move past it. If you just try to forget or ignore, it can eat you like a cancer.
Courage and bravery as you problem solve is a must as you negotiate tough situations. There isn’t anything you can’t manage if you face your problems with courage and bravery. Dorothy faced her problems and in the end faced a foe that could have killed her. It may have been only a movie, but many people face problems that like a witch with an attitude. The witch was easy to overcome, but Dorothy could see her, make a plan, and together with her comrades, she defeated the witch. So many times the foes what we face we don’t see coming, and we can’t develop a plan alone.
It has been said that it takes a village to raise a child, and for Dorothy, it took friends to solve a problem. Sometimes we forget that help can come from the most unconventional forms. People we might not have chosen for our team may be just what we need to see a better future. Never underestimate the people standing in front of you, and never give up.
I have to admit that I have to redefine home as being where ever my family is, and I also have to admit that I have thought of running away. I often have to muster the courage to keep fighting and moving forward but that makes it all the better. Life isn’t easy, and family isn’t always easy to manage either, but it’s worth fighting for and holds us together. It gives us memories of sad and happy times, and makes us stronger. Don’t lose your family, or run away. It won’t help you be happy for life.