Celebrating you!

These days, things are over celebrated.  Every child that plays sports now gets a trophy.  We have graduations from kindergarten, and other grades even before high school.  We seem to be making up things to celebrate, and some people feel they need to be celebrated above others.  We are all important.  We all have strengths that can serve a greater good, but we are not better than anyone else.  Thinking we are more important than anyone else is something that’s learned and causes problems in relationships.  I have had many opportunities that others haven’t had, and I have done what I could with those opportunities to better my life.  As you think about what you have been able to accomplish, what would you celebrate  Sometimes it’s important to celebrate you, just because you are you.  Not because you are better, but because we are all important.

Whether it’s your birthday, or your anniversary, sometimes taking time to celebrate you is important.  This is not scheduling a party, inviting one hundred guests and spending thousands.  It’s taking a moment out of your day to pat yourself on the back for doing something that made you proud.  People in my office often have trouble acknowledging their accomplishments.  From learning how to ride a bike, to finishing high school, to getting that dream job they always wanted, there are things to celebrate.  When I was working with kids with ADHD, and trying to help support parents, as long as they got up and were breathing it was something to celebrate.

Please don’t misunderstand, I’m not talking about other people acknowledging you.  I’m just talking about you, acknowledging you.  I’m talking about feeling good about yourself.  I’m talking about self-esteem, and I’m talking about confidence.   I’m also not talking about getting love on social media.  I’m often faced with having to convince people to get off social media because it’s causing anxiety and stress.  They make a comment, and get hateful comments.  They post something, but don’t feel they have enough friends or likes.  We can’t expect those around us to make us feel better or make us happy.  I’m often sad when I talk with people coming out of marriages because they were hoping that getting married would help them find happiness.  If you aren’t happy when you get married, marriage won’t help.

So celebrate you moments, but don’t expect other to celebrate with you.  Enjoy and be proud of your accomplishments, but don’t wait for others to notice.  Don’t let others dictate how you feel about yourself.  We are all special and we all deserve to be happy, as long as we aren’t hurting others.  That’s a whole other post.  Celebrating you is important, and it shouldn’t depend on a trophy, or ceremony, or something disguised as a party.

Take a moment and celebrate you, for your strengths, and your weaknesses.  They are all a part of what makes you, you.  You are special and don’t forget that.  Celebrate you.  It’s a part of being happy, for life.