How To Tell When To Stop Therapy

Being in therapy can help with multiple issues and help you focus on the future, but it’s not suppose to last forever.  There comes a time in treatment when you and your therapist should talk about termination.  It’s really not meant to be for the rest of your life, although many people are in therapy […]

Don’t Shoot the Messenger

I have been a therapist for a long time, but I will never be able to solve people’s problems.  I talked about finding a therapist, and how to get the most our of treatment, but I am very aware of the fact that I don’t have all the answers.  I wish I did.  Many people […]

Let’s Talk About School Friendships

Going to high school, or middle school, it tough at best.  Friendships change, grow, and disintegrate through school years.  Some of them last and others don’t.  Some people have friends that they grow up with and are in contact with into adulthood.  Many people that we attend high school with, we really never see again, […]

Attachment Disorder Support

This is a very real topic, and one that is hard to think about.  Most people think about attachment related to infants.  Healthy attachment to caregivers gives kids the stepping stones that they need to be successful in life.  As kids grow up, they learn to trust others through healthy attachments, and they go off […]

Let’s Make America Safe Again!

Things in our country are strained, and the violence around us is increasing.  It’s no longer safe to go to the mall, to a concert, or to school.  In my hometown, a realtor was killed by a man who didn’t think that the offer that the realtor secured for his house was fair, so the […]

Trust and Healthy Relationships

Having a healthy relationship is work.  It takes good communication, patience, and commitment.  When it comes to trust, past relationships are a big part of how we trust in the future.  The ability to trust others depends on not only childhood relationships, but also on adult relationships that we have with partners, friends, and peers.  As […]

Healthy Relationships and Attachment

Part of being in a healthy relationship, whether a marriage, friendship, or partnership for work, is being able to connect to others, on a deeper level.  Some people have that ability, but others have issues with trust that can get in the way.  How people grow up either helps with this issue, or places road […]

Communication in Healthy relationships

Communication is such a big part of healthy relationships, and how you communicate with others is very important.  There are many different communication styles, and we can talk about those in the future, but for now, let’s talk about the importance.  Communication is about the exchange of ideas, but communicating in a way that the […]

Taking Care of Myself

This weekend was busy, but I still found some time to take care of myself.  I was able to sleep in Saturday and Sunday( 0730 but that’s good for me!), got to go to my happy place, and was able to get a treat for myself.  In spite of an otherwise busy weekend, I was still […]

Creating Healthy Relationships

Creating healthy relationships starts with creating a healthy relationship with yourself.  Working on yourself includes things we have already talked about, like getting enough sleep, eating healthy, and exercise, but there is so much more.  Let’s talk about the difference between being assertive and aggressive, being supportive and being controlling, and being strong and being […]