How to Ask Questions

Working as a therapist, you learn to ask leading questions, open questions, and questions that get people thinking.  You also teach people how to ask questions in a way that is helpful and that can help get answers.  Sometimes, you also have to teach when not to ask questions.  There is always a time for […]

Asking for Directions

Some people have a good sense of direction and are able to find what they need in life, without any help.  Other’s need help and direction.  Sometimes directions are basic, and get you from place to place, but other times direction includes finding a focus and direction for your life.  That can include picking a […]

Making a Budget

  Many of the people I see in therapy have depression and anxiety.  As I talk with them, basic things come up, including finances, relationships and the future.  I have often thought that basic finances should be taught in high school.  Everyone should know how to balance a check book, write a check, call for […]

Take a Moment for Yourself, and Relax

Have you ever done relaxation exercises?  Do you wonder how they could help?  Using relaxation every day can help manage anxiety, depression, stress, and so many other things.  If you need ideas, there are lots of ideas across the internet, so do some research and find some options that work for you.  Spending even as little […]

Don’t Shoot the Messenger

I have been a therapist for a long time, but I will never be able to solve people’s problems.  I talked about finding a therapist, and how to get the most our of treatment, but I am very aware of the fact that I don’t have all the answers.  I wish I did.  Many people […]

Let’s Talk About School Friendships

Going to high school, or middle school, it tough at best.  Friendships change, grow, and disintegrate through school years.  Some of them last and others don’t.  Some people have friends that they grow up with and are in contact with into adulthood.  Many people that we attend high school with, we really never see again, […]

Attachment Disorder Support

This is a very real topic, and one that is hard to think about.  Most people think about attachment related to infants.  Healthy attachment to caregivers gives kids the stepping stones that they need to be successful in life.  As kids grow up, they learn to trust others through healthy attachments, and they go off […]

Let’s Make America Safe Again!

Things in our country are strained, and the violence around us is increasing.  It’s no longer safe to go to the mall, to a concert, or to school.  In my hometown, a realtor was killed by a man who didn’t think that the offer that the realtor secured for his house was fair, so the […]

Emotions Are Healthy

I posted before on the movie, Inside Out.  I really like that movie because it seems to justify emotions, and a need for a range of emotions.  Many people come to therapy to try to eliminate anxiety or depression.  For some, they need help to better manage the emotions, but they never really go away.  Emotions […]

We Survived Hurricane Irma

So my family battled the dragon, and came out okay.  Irma was a strong opponent.  She changed her plan, so many times, it was hard to get ahead of her.  We planned and evacuated, but we emerged the winner.  Irma is now in history and over the next few days we will start to recover, […]