It’s that season again when people are making lists and thinking about what they want, and what they want to give others.  The stores are more crowded and the hot gifts are selling out quick.  There is pressure to get just the right gift for the ones you love, and some people are already done with shopping.  The commercials on television are all about what you need to buy, and how happy the person will be when they open it.  Is that real?  Is this really what the focus should be at this magical time of year?  I would argue, no.  I think the best holiday gifts don’t come from a store.  The best gift you can give is of yourself, and your time.

                Think back to the last few years.  What do you remember?  Do you remember what you got in presents, or do you remember what you did with family and friends?  I’m sure some people keep track of all that information, but I remember things we did.  I remember getting together with family and friends.  I remember the year we got a real tree and had to tie it to the wall because it was so crooked.  I remember sitting at the little kids table with my cousins, growing up, and going ice skating with my grandfather the day after Christmas.  I remember waking up with my kids, in the morning (very early) and their faces as they opened gifts.  It took me a while to understand what was in the boxes didn’t matter as much as the boxes did.

                Marketing companies get paid to make you think you need the latest gadget.  People are often in debt after the holidays because they spent too much on stuff.  It can take months to catch up, if they ever do, and in the meantime, financial issues can cause stress and depression, and so much anxiety.  The stores are filled with things to buy, that will end up in thrift stores, or even the garbage, in the coming years.  Is that what your holidays are all about?

                I would challenge you to think about gifts in a different way this year.  Give the gift of yourself, or an experience.  Tickets to a show that a loved one wants to attend.  Visit grandma once a month and taking her out for ice cream.  Don’t just show up with your laundry at your parent’s home; come to help around the house.  Rake the leaves or shovel the drive.  Bring flowers just because.  Give of yourself all year long, and make time special.  Make memories for yourself and your loved ones that will last a lifetime, and not end up in a thrift store.

                I am very lucky in my life to have wonderful memories of holidays with my family and friends.  I know that is not the case for all.  I also am very lucky to have loved to spend time with, because I also know there are people who are alone on the holidays.   I enjoy all the parts of the holidays, from baking to decorating, and the spirit of the holidays.  I love the traditions we have in our family, and traditions in out extended family.  Being with the ones you love is the best gift this holiday season.  Don’t let the marketing companies make your forget what’s important.  Don’t go into debt this season.  If you want to buy presents, make them meaningful.  Enjoy the time with family and friends.  It’s all part of being happy, for life.